This blog post is completely random. I wanted to write. So, I told myself to start typing and write whatever was on my mind.
For those of you who do not know me personally, I recently became an entrepreneur a little over 2 months ago. I work with small businesses and entrepreneurs to get their social media marketing up and running so that they get more brand exposure and leads from Facebook Ads. It’s been one hell of a rollercoaster for me and through my good days and bad days, I continually tell myself that there is no way that I am going to give up this freedom and lifestyle. I refuse to allow a company to determine my title, tell me when I am “worthy” enough to get promoted and to determine how much money I make. As long as I am my own boss, I decide what my value is, and my amount of effort will determine how much money I make.
The biggest takeaway I’ve gotten from living this lifestyle is that no matter what obstacles have been put in front of me, I’ve learned to take immediate action the moment I make a decision. I’ve realized that as long as I continually take action, I will continue to open new doors of opportunities for myself. Keep in mind, with each action I take, I never give a damn about what others might think of me because my happiness is all that matters. Yes, I’ll consult with my close friends who are driven entrepreneurs with the same mindset to get an outside perspective to help me make my own decision, yet my decision will still be my own choice. Not everyone will agree with me, and that’s okay. Two years ago, I would not have been able to accept the thought of not caring about what others thought—I was too much of a people pleaser. I cared so much about making sure everyone liked me and the image I portrayed, but deep down inside, I wasn’t truly happy. I felt like I put up this perfect image of myself acting like my life was just amazing in every which way when really… I was insecure, over-analytical and indecisive as hell with what I wanted to do with my life.
It wasn’t until after attending a few Core Strength Experience events was when I learned that I was extremely hard on myself (being the perfectionist that I am) and that what I needed more of was self-love. In fact, a lot of us could benefit from more self-love. I’m not talking about selfishness or being self-centered, I’m talking about finding time to give to yourself more often than not, taking the time to reflect on yourself and appreciate how far you’ve made it in life no matter what your circumstance.
As I pursued this fitness lifestyle (basically to try to win back an ex-boyfriend), I started noticing a trend among people who wanted to pursue working out. It always seemed that the main reason why people wanted to begin working out was because they were not happy with themselves, they hate the way their body looked and they felt insecure so they wanted to change that. First, that is the bomb dot com that you totally have the courage to want change, most people are afraid of that. Second, you’re using pain to push you towards your goal which typically never lasts; as human beings, we are born with the pleasure principle where we ultimately seek gratification (just ask the homie, Sigmund Freud). So, that’s why I continually promote working out and taking care of yourself physically as a source of self-love rather than self-hate. Love yourself enough to know that you deserve a healthy body, happy mindset and a longer life.
I’m so glad that I created Stephanie Ann Fit and looked past my fear of judgement from random strangers on the internet, because now I get to use the brand as a source of sending out my message. Go out there and get anything you put your mind to, step out of your comfort zone and stop caring about what others think about you. Because ultimately, other people don’t really care that much about you, they care more about themselves. They may judge you for a short period of time but eventually, they’ll resort back to focusing on themselves and their problems, it’s the way the human brain works. Lastly, I get to authentically be myself and show you all how much I’ve improved and grown as a person. I genuinely appreciate and love myself, and it’s my personal goal to inspire you to feel the same about yourself—I’ve got to practice what I preach right? I mean, I didn’t get ‘integrity’ tattooed on my back for no reason. 😉
That’s my rant for the week. I’ll leave you with this quote. 🙂